How to keep the faith on campus
By
Kevin O’Brien, Published: August 19 at 10:49 am
Prospective
students leave the undergraduate admissions building to take a tour of
Georgetown University campus in Northwest Washington. There are 235 Catholic
universities in the United States, including Georgetown.Nikki Kahn / The
Washington Post
A few years ago, as we prepared to
welcome our first-year students to Georgetown, the earth quaked, a novel
seismic experience for most of us on the East coast. This minor earthquake
became a vivid metaphor for me as I encountered one student after another who
seemed to be on shifting ground when it came to their faith conviction. So much
was new and overwhelming; they were both exhilarated and downright scared.
Those going off to college this time of
year are in the midst of the most significant transition of their lives.
Academically, these high school graduates will learn to think more deeply, read
more broadly, and write more cogently. Socially, relationships will shift as
distance tests high school friendships and families adjust to a new way of
being together. Emotionally, they will likely experience a mix of feelings
about their new life. Often overlooked in the transition to college are the
spiritual and religious dimensions of the change.
For the young, religious identification
can be fluid. As with other parts of their lives, they test their faith
commitments. According to a survey published in October 2012 by the Pew Forum
on Religion and Public Life, nearly one-third of Americans under the age of 30
define their religious preference as “none,” which is a significant increase
from five years ago. The “nones” encompass a variety of people. Most are “spiritual
but not religious,” believing in God but not wanting to be tied down by any one
religious profession or practice. A small number are atheists or agnostics.
While more young people are choosing not
to affiliate with a religious community, over two-thirds of young adults
identify as Catholic, Protestant, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu, Mormon, or another
religious denomination. In contrast to Western Europe, the United States
remains a very religious country. Like an ethnic, racial, and gender
identity, young adults can grow into their religious identity during the
college years as they meet new people, encounter a range of ideas inside and
outside of class, and experience the nitty, gritty reality of life away from
the often safe confines of home and high school. Growing pains can mark this
religious “coming of age.”
In these shaky times, holding on to one’s
religious tradition can be very helpful. A living tradition offers comfort,
encouragement and the wisdom of others who have gone through the ups and downs
of human living and found God in the mix of it all. But we must not hold
on to that tradition too tightly because religion deals with a Holy Mystery
that eludes any one formulation, image, or practice. Sometimes we have to let
go of a familiar, tried-and-true way of praying or believing in order to
embrace another way of relating to God that better suits us as we get older.
This in-between time, so often associated
with the college years, can be awkward and unsettling. But it can also be a
moment of grace if we do not rush it. We have to let ourselves feel incomplete,
even empty sometimes, so that we can be filled in unimaginable new ways. This
spiritual longing – like homesickness for our loved ones at home – means that
in our emptiness, we still love God deeply.
Doubts are natural. Jacob wrestled with
his angel. Thomas did not believe the good news of the resurrection. Even Jesus
hesitated in the garden and questioned on the cross. To doubt does not
mean to lack faith. To the contrary, doubt can be a sign that one’s faith is
very much alive. We care enough about our relationship with God to wrestle with
the Divine. Questions are a way of keeping the conversation going. Apathy is
more indicative of a crisis of faith, and easily leads to a very uninteresting,
stagnant faith. Better to rant and rave at God than give God the silent
treatment.
What students learn or read in class, or
pick up from others, can stoke many good questions. This is usually a good sign
that young people are growing into an adult faith and using the minds God gave
them. A thinking faith is a vibrant, interesting faith, and thus one that will
last a lifetime. In such moments, talking to an older mentor can be helpful so
that questioning does not only disassemble and deconstruct, leaving nothing
behind, but instead leads to building up and emboldening.
In short, young adults transitioning to
college need to be gentle with themselves and others. Parents do well to
model that patience. The devout high school son may come home at Thanksgiving
and announce his love for Nietzsche and his conviction that he is now an
atheist. The once church-going daughter may return home a “seeker,” having
experienced a variety of religious communities with her new friends. I recall
that during my freshmen year at Georgetown, after taking the first required
theology course, I fell into a deep spiritual funk, which felt very
uncomfortable in my Irish Catholic skin. In the class, I addressed unsettling
and age-old questions about the existence of God and the problem of evil. I got
through it after a few months, with a stronger, more grounded, more deeply
personal faith – and a life-long desire to learn more.
I’m a Jesuit priest now, working and
teaching back at Georgetown, ready to greet another group of 18-year-olds. I
hope that there will be no earthquakes this time around. But surely I will find
more than a few who are on shifting spiritual ground. I will try to be like
those good people who, when I was 18, were so faithful to me, and who thus
showed me what God’s faithfulness looked like. I will listen first and offer
some counsel, careful not to too quickly relieve them of the necessary task of
struggling through the questions on their own. And I will point them to one of
our religious communities on campus made up of equally excited, confused,
uncertain, and hopeful young adults. Across their differences, they find
consolation in walking the journey of faith together, each leaning on the other
and open to a mystery still unfolding in their remarkable lives.
Kevin O’Brien, S.J., is a Jesuit priest and Vice President for Mission
and Ministry at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C.
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